Russian Dating

My disclaimer: THIS IS NOT ABOUT ALL RUSSIAN WOMAN!

I have some very close friends with extremely healthy relationship with women from this region. Their wives are wonderful, supportive, loving, and great partners in love. I have some close friends who exhibit none of these characteristics)

Some dating sites have been infiltrated by the Russians! Russian Girls rather. They rule the playground. It is not just on

the, "Meet Russian Girls" dating sites; they operate on almost all the popular sites. It took but a minute to realize this when I opened a profile on Match recently. They are the ones that will contact you before you contact them. They will leave you the message about their interest in you.

They are very capable at pulling a foolish man! You will know this truth when you realize that there are few contacting you at all but a few very attractive women that have no business suggesting that you are their dream man. They straight-up lie about where they live and study the area they claim to be from so to establish credibility. If they claim they are from San Francisco, they will walk the walk and be aware of characteristics of that city, but in the words of a younger culture, "they are Fronting" (Putting up a false story to mislead you).

If the relationship starts on a footing of deception, it can prove to be an uphill battle.

Once you are engaged in emailing and begin trusting them, they tell you the truth. "I am a well educated, gorgeous woman searching for love" This often follows with an, I love you. They will omit the part about, "You with the money and means to bring me to America and get the hell out of this hell hole I live in"

This should be the disclaimer for those that Internet prowl on American men.

You shall walk around town with a beautiful wife for the entire community to see you are a capable man. All your friends will be longing to be like you. We will be married and you will be very happy. I will treat you with respect upon you earning it. It will not be too difficult to earn my respect. I will provide you with an intelligent well-educated partner. I will seek out other Russian girls in your areas and build strong bonds with them that you will not be able to undermine. I will learn all about the American methods of divorce and control. I shall be extremely calculated and likely smarter then you. I will utilize my intellect to insure that I seek my objectives and that may or may not have anything to do with your needs and wants.

Sex? Oh that, is that what you figured, we would be having sex? Well, I may not be having sex with you. This is entirely up to me and you do not have a vote on this topic. Period! Well, we don't let you American and European guys know this but sex is not part of the deal. You simply assumed that you would be having sex with us throughout the marriage; we never mentioned that, you men just assume it would be that way and you know what is said about those that assume things? Sex may occur when we first meet for the intention of attracting you and lock you in, but by no means was their any intent to have sex with you afterwards. Sex is what you do to engage a relationship not maintain it. To maintain the relationship I will have your child. Sex is reserved for the passion that lies with men I am attracted; our relationship is based on resources not attraction. I married you from a dating site to get me to America.

Why is the means of meeting others so prevalent?

These women seek American men to find someone outside of their world because the likelihood of improving their lives is far greater in the states then staying in their regions. What they are leaving behind is easily worse then anything they are going to deal with in America. They are also well aware that the worst likely scenario is that they put up with your sorry ass for three or four years that then they divorce you and are free to more on in life. It is like a college degree to them, it is simply an investment of time.

I know of one Russian Lady now with her Stanford PhD. The first guy to marry was used to get her in America. She already had her Russian degrees, she just needs to update and re-credential her degrees in the States to practice medicine. The first man she married got her in the States. The second man she hooked up with funded her life while she finished Stanford. The next guy actually got a woman that wanted him. Yes, the first two men where used like a rug at the front door. Discarded once they were no longer needed. I have plenty of other stories for those thinking that this is an isolated encounter. The first two guys were hooking up in hopes of having sex with a beautiful woman, what they ended up with was a roommate.

What do you truly want her to desire in you? Your money or whom you actually are inside?

I once wrote apiece called, Money or Muscles. In this piece I discussed that the majority of men who are actively seeking a mate, go for one of two strategies. The ones with money work the wealth angle as their lead-in to attraction. Like bears to honey, once the woman has the sent of the honey they go for the money. While the guys with little funds use the, "I have a great body to please you with" as their strategy. Both fail if what they seek in a lasting relationship, however, they are very successful for those seeking shallow sexually sexperiences. (Not a typo)

Not that the strategies are wrong or bad, they are just shallow and misdirected.

When I went through my divorce, I came out of it with the shirt on my back. Well that is not entirely accurate, but it sure felt that way. I had a gorgeous Porsche Cabriolet, (convertible), lots of nice clothes and adornments, (bling). I had plenty of money and it clearly showed that I was an intelligent man of means. Pretty cool, I should have no problem meeting woman with such a profile. Right?



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Attracting women

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The end game fails because you are truly seeking someone with the same desire to have in strong lasting relationship as you. What you attract are some ladies that will bring their great looks to the party in exchange for the trappings you can provide. An even exchange you might think, but not if what you truly want is a real loving relationship and not a woman in love with the life style you provide.

PS: I never went the Russian route. The passion in my writing in from those I have met alone the way and the pain that remains in their hearts.

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